Dusting my dresser I lifted my ‘action figure’ and found myself reminiscing briefly over
the past quarter century of Multiple Sclerosis spouse caregiving.
Decades
ago my co-workers gave me this action figure when I finally had to abandon
juggling working full-time, spouse caregiving, and basically single parenting.
Multi-tasking
before it was even an overused word meant leaving work early, racing home to
pick up Patti from the bathroom floor, shower and dress her, clean up the
smeared excrement and urine from the bathroom, spray the house, and open
windows before the elementary school bus arrived with our daughter and her
friends. … I had to simply ‘find a way’ to juggle all the lives I was responsible
for -- that’s what MS home caregiving
was.
Later when
the care facility era began I felt ‘defeated’ at first before finding renewal
in the teamwork era. I committed myself to 3.5 outings per week on average,
followed by preparing and transferring Patti from her wheelchair to bed by
myself using the bear hug one person unassisted transfer. We never used a lift
in homecare and in my mind remaining part of her bedtime routine half the
nights of every week keeps the care facility an ‘era’ rather than an ‘end’.
Recently
I guestimated I have pushed Patti’s wheelchair over 5,000 miles (8,000
kilometers) over the years. If I had to do the same with “lifting” I would
guestimate a total of 25 tons (22,700 kg) of one person unassisted transfers over
just one year in the care facility era. Each home care year was ‘exponentially’
more. When caring for a non-ambulatory person, caring is about lifting hundreds
of tons over the decades. Whatever ... it's a lot more than a warranty on any
commercial lift.
This
year my lung cancer diagnosis and surgery has been my own personal kryptonite
and it’s annoying me. My transferring Patti to bed myself has dropped 10% and I
‘feel’ those manual transfers in my muscles affected by lung cancer surgery …
Why can’t
life be like a comic book where caregivers’ red capes never fade and instead it’s
the disease that weakens?
Patrick Leer
BLOGS:
Caregivingly Yours, MS Caregiver @ http://caregivinglyyours.blogspot.com/
My Lung Cancer Odyssey @ http://lung-cancer-survivor.blogspot.com/
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As far as I am concerned, you have a brilliantly red cape that never fades. And I'll bet that Patti agrees.
ReplyDeleteThanks Judy though whether she agrees or not Patti won't remember. For all I know the cape never fades for her. :)
DeleteTo answer the question, I guess because lately rainbows are actually just Skittles print ads.
ReplyDeleteShowing your age Mary you youngen :) When I picture rainbows I conjure up 'Rainbow Brite' from my daddy daughter bonding and cartoon watching days of yore. :)
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