WHY? … As a caregiver the more you ask WHY you realize any answers are not of this world. No shrub, flaming or otherwise, has ever spoken with me and neither preaching nor proselytizing is my calling. This is only about trying to live with “why”.
“Care” is rooted in the “Golden Rule” universal to ALL religions. Do to others as you would have them do to you. I’ve met caregivers from all theologies and those who practice no traditional denomination. In 22 years I’ve observed no advantage or disadvantage to any particular religion in regards to caregiving.
Religion and faith are not the same. Faith is belief beyond known fact. Faith in something greater than myself is critical to caregiving.
I suspect many caregivers feel like they were on that proverbial road to Damascus with a world of different plans in life when suddenly “redirected”.
Patti believes what I am matters, so at the risk of sectarian violence I will again briefly pull back a curtain. My maternal grandmother was an immigrant from Ireland and my bedrock is Irish Catholic.
What’s the difference from Roman Catholic? In a nutshell, one is pragmatic the other dogmatic. Sprinkled with Druid DNA, Irish Catholic is more embracing of the natural world than our Roman cousins. <grin>
People have shared with us that, “The Lord works in mysterious ways” enough times over the 22 years since Patti was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis to probably qualify for an entry in the Guinness Book of Records. … PLEASE think of a more creative way to express that thought.
Those ‘mysterious ways’ challenge faith. As the caregiver, watching Patti decline (and over a three year period burying my father, mother, and only brother) I’ve certainly had, have, and will have contentious streaks in my relationship with God, fortunately always staying just beyond the ‘smite with lighting bolt’ threshold. … I admire those with rock solid faith.
For me, T. S. Eliot captured it best in his poem "Ash Wednesday":
“…Suffer us not to mock ourselves with falsehood
Teach us to care and not to care
Teach us to sit still
Even among these rocks,
Our peace in His will…”