"Don would complain bitterly that … he hated the "blue bath".
“I quizzed the staff … he doesn't have good enough balance any more to sit up in the shower chair … wasn't safe; he might fall.”
“… tracked down a high-backed reclining shower chair … on trial for the past week … nurse said they just wheeled him in and left him to it … he was refreshed and relaxed and very happy with it.
(if the nursing home will not purchase one) …then I will purchase Don's own. … You can't put a price on dignity."
"I am learning to help Jack wait.........and waiting is difficult
I am also learning to judge what is fact and what is supposed fact.
Sometimes I get a call from Jack about a problem and after I drive 10 miles to the facility, he was mistaken, and greatly embarrassed. Helping him through these painful times is just part of loving your spouse.
Most of all I am learning that showing LOVE is understood and communicated without any barriers in the mind. The brain can be a broken machine but the love cells still function."