Wednesday, March 27, 2013

not 'too hot', hot chocolate

Juggling as a word has roots reaching back to Latin, meaning joke. Jesters through the centuries entertained people with jokes and juggling.

Juggling spouse caregiving for Patti’s progressing Multiple Sclerosis symptoms while basically single parenting our daughter from infant to adult has been more like trying to juggle while running back and forth between two ends of a teeter-totter. Good times and bad times, hopefully my antics were more amusing than displeasing.

Now juggling spouse caregiving for Patti’s MS dementia and more, as her advocate, through the care facility era and my own diagnosis of lung cancer for the past 15 months it’s more like running back and forth between two ends of a cruel joke.

Anyway as the last bumps of Monday’s snow melted away, I decided to take Patti out for a lunch outing. Plowable or shoveable snow can make deploying our wheelchair van ramp complicated so the extra day wait was optimum. Plus I like to mix up my times for visiting and outings from Patti’s care facility since Patti is unable to advocate for herself or even remember what goes on at different times of day. As her advocate I try to adhere to the maximum,  'it's not what you expect it's what you inspect.' 

Best of all I have no lung cancer when I am out and about with Patti. Her MS dementia symptoms have erased my diagnosis.

We headed to our favorite Helena's Chocolate Café & Crêperie. Where else can we order a ‘not too hot’ hot chocolate in an adult sippy cup? (aka to go cup) Besides everything being so yummy, Patti had a chocolate strawberry crêpe. The staff is always so accommodating of Patti’s Multiple Sclerosis symptoms.

Saying our goodbyes I could hear the lyrics to the Cheers Theme Song playing in my head …

“Making your way in the world today takes everything you've got.
Taking a break from all your worries, sure would help a lot.
Wouldn't you like to get away?
Sometimes you want to go
 Where everybody knows your name,
and they're always glad you came.”
Patrick Leer
Health Activist:
Caregivingly Yours, MS Caregiver @


  1. Sounds like a wonderful outing, and I'm sure that Patti enjoyed it.

    1. Thanks Muff! It's the little things like serving Patti not too hot hot chocolate in an adult sippy cup (or a to go cup) that makes the difference between an outing and a wonderful outing. :)

  2. Never thought the Cheers Theme Song would bring tears but put in this context it is emotional for sure.


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