As a caregiver I may feel frustration over something, while Patti’s MS cognitive symptoms can put her on an opposite track over the same concern. It makes communication and resolving an issue so complicated. And of course, the opposite can just as easily be true.
Because I have no medically diagnosed cognitive symptoms, I assume my perspective is the correct one. <grin> Which only confounds any attempt to talk through something.
Somewhat like having a conversation with yourself but somehow something gets lost in translation. <grin>
Before MS took Patti out of the work place, she was a buyer for a paper company eventually aquired by International Paper. She handled all negotiable family purchases such as cars and houses. As recently as 4 years ago, though no longer quick, she was still a valuable consultant and we could work as a team.
Shopping for a wheelchair accessible van has hammered home to me how much cognitive and reasoning deterioration has occurred in ways no medical test could evaluate.In a relationship, the caregiver acquires by default whatever skills the other person brought to the relationship as they slip into dependency. You don’t always see that coming.