Multiple Sclerosis speech problems impact social functioning, no ifs ands or buts.
While pushing a laughing Patti in her wheelchair through our grocery store, her Multiple Sclerosis related Speech became stuck like a stylus on an old vinyl record “You’re a …” “You’re a …” “You’re a …”
Then in a volcanic explosion of decibels she shouts, “You’re a goober!” before dissolving into laughter.
Now a neurologist would charge you big bucks to tell you which Greek words apply above, dysarthrias, dysphasia, aphasia, dysphonia, or dysphagia.
I simply thanked Patti on the part of myself and everyone within hearing range.
What exactly is a goober? “How the f@ck should I know?” Patti offered.
MS Speech problems swing both ways, frustrating for the speaker, confusing for the listener.
MS Speech problems are all about short circuiting from myelin damage. Fatigue can affect and intermittent nature can make everyone nuts
People diagnosed with MS do not wear signs so ‘inquiring minds’ react from speculation to assumption as to why speech is challenged.
Listener assumptions can be as much of the problem as the speech challenges.
Slurred speech was the first speech symptom to appear in our story. Patti was ‘encouraged’ to go home from work one day decades ago in the dawn of living with Multiple Sclerosis as coworkers ‘assumed’ she was drunk.
Scanning speech / Long Pauses Do not ‘assume’ that someone has trouble understanding what you are saying or cannot find ‘the words’. This is about challenges with the physical process of speech.
Volume is particularly challenging for Patti. Appropriate levels can get interesting to say the least. (a church moment)
MS related Emotional Lability plus Pseudobulbar Affect equals excessive emotional response plus anything might be said in any given situation. Patti for example becomes a ‘laugher’ at funerals.
Suggestions from two decades experience:
- Do not assume!
- Patience is support.
- Remember speaking can be frustrating and tiring.
- Be honest, not condescending, when you really have not understood something.
- Check ‘your’ self-conscious attitude at the door.
Urban Dictionary defines goober as a term of endearment, a kindhearted goofball. … I’m honored!
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